on love.

“If you asked most people whether they believe in love or not, they’d probably say they didn’t. Yet that’s not necessarily what they truly think. It’s just the way they defend themselves against what they want. They believe in it, but pretend they don’t until they’re allowed to. Most people would throw away all their cynicism if they could. The majority just never get the chance to.”

“We are all more intelligent than capable, and awareness of the insanity of love never saved anyone from the disease.”

“In our knowledge of others, we are necessarily forced to interpret clues; we are like detectives or archaeologists who piece together stories from fragments.”

“Everyone returns us to a different sense of ourselves, for we become a little of who they think we are… if someone thinks I am shy, I will probably end up shy; if someone thinks me funny, I am likely to keep cracking jokes.”

“But what does wisdom say about love? Do sages lose their heads to it, or only overgrown children?”

“Though love might never be painless and is certainly not wise, neither can it be forgotten. It is as inevitable as it is unreasonable.”

“For all the sacrifices demanded by the stoic life, was there not something cowardly within it? At the heart of stoicism lay the desire to disappoint oneself before someone else had the chance to do so.”

…..

Latest book checked off the list: On Love: A Novel. So simple, and so practical.

De Botton writes with a lucidity that I just can’t get over. In each and every book there are sentences, paragraphs, even chapters that make me nearly worry he is in the room, watching me and somehow reading my mind. I have never heard someone say things so resonant to my thoughts. It is both comforting and frightening.

{image: album artwork from upcoming Repave, by Volcano Choir}

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